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Monday, May 27, 2013

SOMEONE JUST DIED…


Someone is gone and will never  be back
Soul taken in a flash like a beam of light
I lost count of flesh and bodies dent the ground
She’ said it is terrible and we all wept
Someone just lost there love and memories are now in play
No more togetherness and no future cos its now in the past
Don’t try to stop my tears cos someone just died
Can you bring them back? who will be there

I heard the devilish sound as then event takes play
I see the bones crush and souls flies
My eyes are still in shock cos I can’t believe someone just died
What just happened? Who did it just happened
Someone just died and no one is asking the right questions
Its tears in rampage and hearts in shock
No more tomorrow cos no knows anymore
What now become of them when someone just died?

I don’t expect you to say sorry cos someone just died
Don’t be here when you won’t stay forever
We can’t plan for tomorrow if we know someone will die
Lives ain’t forever but we still need to try
“Forever young” who dosen’t want that
There can’t be life without death yet we deny that
Someone just died and they are gone forever
Till tomorrow that will never come

Reverend prepare the sermon cos someone just died
You see the woman crying by the conner
Yea! She is now a widow and I guess you don’t know
Can you imagine how it is to live when someone just died?
Can you live with the lonliness cos you can’t replace the dead
You just pray that your someone never dies
And tell them to pray that you never die
Cos its really hard, when someone you know dies


Dedicated to anyone who have ever lost someone
Take heart.. it only happens once but life goes on



Sunday, May 26, 2013

Imo’s mystery tree: Agony tales of victims’ families


Families which lost their dear ones on Thursday, May 16 when a mystical ancestral tree fell in Umudagu Mbieri Community, Mbaitoli LGA of Imo State are still counting their losses.
A pall of gloom and anguish still pervaded the community on Sunday, May 19 when this reporter visited the community to feel the pulse of bereaved families.
It was also observed that a stench has started oozing from the scene of the tragedy leading to experts calling for fumigation of the place to avert an outbreak of an epidemic.
Perhaps, worse-hit is the Iheme family which lost both parents. Mr. Godfrey Iheme, a land agent and his lovely wife, Rachael were killed by the ancestral tree leaving behind eight children to mourn them.
Their grief-stricken first son, Ikechukwu broke down intermittently while narrating how his father and mother, who were hale and hearty before the incident died.
Ikechukwu, a school leaver and welder revealed that he was returning to their house from his Umodu base on the fateful day when from a distance he began to hear noises. On enquiry, he said, he was informed that the tree popularly known as Uko had fallen at a time the night market which held at its base was in full swing.
He said his mind went to his mother, who sold groceries at the night market. Ikechukwu stated that it never came into his mind that his father would also be killed too.
On reaching the scene, rescue efforts were on and many people had massed at the place. Ikechukwu disclosed that on enquiry, he was told his mother had gone home resulting in his rushing to their house to make assurances doubly sure. On reaching their house, his mother was nowhere to be found.
Ikechukwu, who had just finished his welding apprenticeship rushed back to the market where he saw his father’s motorcycle. His father, Mr. Iheme had gone to market to bring back his mother. He was at the market when the mystery tree fell.
According to Ikechukwu’s 53-year-old uncle, Moses Iheme, it was easy to locate the lifeless body of Godfrey. ‘The tree broke his neck and legs,’ he informed. But locating the corpse of Mrs Iheme proved difficult because the tree buried her in the bowels of the earth. Moses disclosed that a caterpillar had to be used to excavate her corpse.
As he was narrating the calamity that has befallen their family, tears made to drop from his eyes but the man in him held the tears back. ‘I feel so bad; it is very painful to lose my brother and his wife at same time and in this circumstance,’ Moses lamented.
Moses was angered more by the fact that the tree would have been felled 15 years ago but for the resistance of the natives. According to him, the Charles Uwakwe-led executive of the community had wanted to cut down the tree but some indigenes of the community resisted the move preferring that the Uko tree be pruned only.
Godfrey Iheme and his wife left behind eight children namely Ikechukwu, Chibueze, Adanma, Amarachi, Ifeanyi, Kingsley, Blessing and Kelechi.
This reporter was also told that a nursing mother, Mrs Chinonye Ugorji met her untimely death at the market. She left her child at home to purchase Geisha at the market and did not return alive. The killer-tree hurried her out of the planet earth!
According to Chigozie Chukwu, a plumber, a three-year-old child whose mother kept in a wheel barrow also died in the incident. Her mother made to save him but had to change her mind when it was apparent that doing so would also result in her death.
Sixty-seven-year-old Mr Donatus Iheagwam also lost his 50-year-old wife, Mrs Elizabeth in the incident. Late Mrs Iheagwam sold foodstuff at the night market. According to Mr Iheagwam, they became panic-stricken when at about 8:30pm on the fateful day she had not returned from the market.
He disclosed that they went to the market after hearing that a calamity had occurred at the market and discovered that the tree fell on his wife. Her corpse was taken to Aladinma Mortuary. ‘I loved my wife and she loved me. We helped one another. Now that she is gone, I can only ask God to comfort me and our children.’ Late Mrs Iheagwam left behind six children, comprising five girls and one boy who are still in their teens.
Mr Uzoma Nwosu, an engineer is late Mrs Iheagwam’s younger brother. He also lamented the exit of his sister. ‘She was my only sister. Whenever I had problems, I would come to her and she would offer some pieces of advice which helped me. Now she is no more, I’m pained,’ Nwosu stated.
Sabina Nwosu, aged mother of the deceased broke down in tears while speaking with this reporter. ‘Elizabeth was my daughter in who I was well-pleased,’ she stated. It was the only thing she could utter before giving way to emotions.
Iheagwam and Nwosu called on government to mow down all ancestral trees in other markets and public places in the state that pose danger. Iheagwam also hailed the state government for opting to come to their aid in this period of their mourning. It was gathered that the Rhas Construction Company which handled the Hardel-Umuonyeali Road had wanted to cut down the killer-Uko tree but the natives again resisted it. The firm left it and did a little diversion. Even Archbishop Anthony Obinna had advised the natives to cut down the tree without the indigenes agreeing.
The tree until May 16 did not kill anybody. According to the natives, its branches that felled before the tree came down did not kill anybody. The branches also felled when nobody was in the market.
This might have made the natives to attach some mystical powers to the tree. Some people are reported to have also converted the tree to a worship centre. An indigene of the community told this reporter that he was returning late one night and saw some un-clad people worshipping and canting incantations at the foot of the tree.
However, it was discovered after its fall that the tree had died and dried up and therefore should have been mowed down a long time ago.
Speaking with this reporter, a prominent indigene of Ihitte-Mbieri Community, Dr. Eddie Ugorji revealed that what deceived the natives about the tree was its lush green nature. He explained that the lush green nature of the tree has now been discovered to be due to saprophytes. Saprophytes are plants that grow on other decaying plants.
Chief Ugorji regretted the tragedy which he said had taken its toll on the community and strangers. He revealed that when he went to Aladinma mortuary, he saw corpses of people who died during the incident littered there. ‘I broke down in tears, I couldn’t stand the sight. It was gory,’ he stated.
The tree gave no sign before falling. And it cannot be said to have been pulled down by rain. Chief Ugorji revealed that the tree gave way in the thick of a windstorm that preceded a light shower that fateful day.
The community has embarked on collation of people who died and those who were injured. The collation is important for record purposes and for possible assistance to be given to their families by government. Already, state governor, Owelle Rochas Okorocha has promised to assist the bereaved families and the wounded.
He made the promise when he visited the scene of the incident. He however warned against superstition. His warning came on the heels of the resistance of the community for the tree to be cut down because it is believed that it provided some protection to the community.
Besides the financial aid which state government is planning for the victims’ families, there are also plans to immortalize the victims by building a monument at the scene of the incident. Chief Ugorji, who is Secretary/President-General of Ihitte-Mbieri Community said they are planning something similar to the Okigwe Roundabout in Owerri. The names of the victims would be inscribed on the monument, he stated.
‘It will be a tourist’s site. People will like to visit the place to see those who lost their lives in the tragedy. My heart goes to their families including my cousin who lost his wife,’ Chief Ugorji stated.
Truly, the incident is a heart-rending one. People who were hale and hearty on fateful day lost their lives simply because they came within the vicinity of the tree. This also should teach communities the lesson of not allowing big trees grow and flourish at markets and public places. While no one is canvassing the felling of trees in order to disrupt the eco-system, it is imperative that ancestral trees which pose great danger to people should be mow down before they like the Uko tree wreck havoc.
To the victims, we say adieu and to the bereaved families, take heart. The damage had been done.

Saturday, May 25, 2013

AND IN NIGERIA……


Our stories are pale
We are tigers eating grass
It is not a figure of speech
But reality behind words

And in Nigeria
Truth become lies
The eagles swims
And the chicks are carnivore

And in Nigeria
The lions of Africa
We hide behind a fellow
But who are the fellow

Here in Nigeria
The rain are much colder
Pain are more painful
And life is much unbearable

Here in Nigeria
I might be wrong
Maybe am right
But my instinct tells me right

Don’t judge me much
Cos’ am here in Nigeria
What more can I say
Cos we are in Nigeria

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Poem: Inspired by an old farmer

The distance is not her wahala,
She never feared neither sun nor rain.
The day is about the motive,
The job to be done,
The harvest she anticipates.

Slowly she walks, never faster than a vehicle,
Not even one intention to be,
Winds blow her smiles and age tell a story on her,
Her work yet, or after she still walks,
Her machete sharp, yet a tender heart.

Her sons buy girls blackberry in the city,
Yet phoneless she walks, else she forgot it at home.
I wish you knew her more...
Half harvest still went to her sons.
Love like 'unchained melody',
 She’ll still walk next year..

If I'd watched unnoticed,
On a ridge, she breaks fast soon before noon calls.
Is she saving the food? I heard it makes her weak!
Men answer warriors! She answers farmer!
A title below a sincere standard,
Yet her fallen breasts were warriors' favourite.

She told the first stories,
Different from my parents' repeating playlist,
She made them real like she saw the characters yesterday,
Inspired by love and moon light,
Is there a bulb like the moon?
I want older stories as I'm old now.

I'll write a poem of endless verses,
Better titled 'the hero called granny'
She's mostly lonely in the village homes,
Her husband's in civil war tales,
Yet single and cold she remained all night.
To groom daddies that soon ran to cities.

The distance is not her wahala,
There'll surely be an end.
Slowly she walks, never faster than a vehicle,
Girls today would surely be.
Her sons buy girls blackberry in the city,
In her heart she keeps them connected.
If I'd watched unnoticed,
I'd write a poem of endless verses,
Inspired by an old farmer.


A dedication to all African grandmothers

By Chinedu Hardy Nwadike

Friday, May 17, 2013

Mourinho rues 'worst-ever season' following Copa defeat


The Portuguese did not hesitate to write off the campaign as the least successful of his life to date but insisted Atletico Madrid were "lucky" to have triumphed

Real Madrid coach Jose Mourinho has described the 2012-13 campaign as the "worst season of his career" following a 2-1 defeat to Atletico Madrid in the Copa del Rey final.

Joao Miranda's extra-time header sent the Portuguese's side to defeat at Santiago Bernabeu on Friday and signalled Mourinho's first campaign without a major trophy in over a decade - excepting the Supercopa success over Barcelona back in August.

Speaking after the game, the 50-year-old admitted the last year has been a blot on his CV when placed in the context of his own high standards.

"This was the worst season of my career. For many coaches it would be a good season but for me it is the worst," Mourinho told reporters.

"I always showed up in the press room every time we drew or we lost. This year's campaign was a failure but my first two seasons were successful."

The coach, who was sent to the stands midway through the second half, claimed in his post-match assessment that Atletico were "lucky" to lift the trophy after his side hit the woodwork three times and were foiled by a number of stunning saves from Thibaut Courtois.

"I don't think Atletico deserve to be champions but they won the title," he said. "We had two clear chances on goal, we hit the post three times. This is why I think it is unfair.

"Atletico's keeper was fantastic but he was also lucky tonight."

Mourinho's future has been shrouded in speculation for some weeks as rumours of a return to the Premier League with Chelsea gather pace, but he was tight-lipped with regards any potential move.

"I have a contract that is valid for three more years," he said. "I still haven't talked to the [Real Madrid] president [Florentino Perez] about my future."

Simeone: We no longer fear Real Madrid

Diego Simeone has applauded his Atletico Madrid players for banishing their fear of arch-rivals Real Madrid in their 2-1 Copa del Rey final victory at the Santiago Bernabeu on Friday.
The Rojiblancos needed an extra-time goal from defender Miranda to end their 25-match winless run against their city neighbours and triumph in the domestic cup competition for the first time in almost two decades.
And their coach was delighted with the commitment made by each and every one of his players on the night and in the wider context of their "incredible" progress since his appointment in December 2011.
"It was an incredible game. We had the luck needed to win the trophy. What these players have been doing for the past year-and-a-half is incredible," Simeone told reporters.
"They finally lost their fear and the hearts of each player combined to win the match, and it was amazing. We were fortunate because in football, teams that win have a slice of luck. We believed that we'd win the game.
"What brought us these achievements has been this - you see Diego Costa running 50 metres back, see Koke, [Radamel] Falcao and Gabi all sacrificing themselves for the team.
"I'm speechless. Now we have to think about the next game if we want to keep on developing. That's the only way we know."

Tracing the origin of art

“Every child is an artist, the problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up”-pablo piccasso
Everything that had, or still is, has an origin. A root, a beginning, a starting point. Even when you believe that, 'all started from pre-existing things' (Evolution), or in a religious perspective was created, or philosophically, 'a cause caused all things to exist'- Even if it is a 'cause causer' a 'prime mover' a 'creator', the fact still remains, everything has a beginning.
History and monuments as well as art have a lot to tell us about this truth. Though art had motivated the beginning of, and creation of other things that need to be created; it still has its origin; a higher origin, born and created with the artist himself. This origin of art has always been the pride of those who engage in it, mostly the visual art. Like human, the origin of art can be traced through evolution or creation, but the purpose of this piece is to trace it through creation.
Every profession has its own claims as to its roots. Sometimes these claims are verified by physical, documented or archeological evidences. Other times, they are just assertions and speculations and have no realistic proof to back up these arguments. Truth remains, every profession has a story to tell; for instance, 'a Barrister of the law would affirm that the law was the first thing created. That is, when God said “…But you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil…” (Genesis 2:17 kjv) law was born. A biologist would make his own claim “be fruitful and increase in number, multiply on the earth and increase upon it” (Gen. 9:7&1:27) biology. A poet would make his own claim that even from the beginning there was poetry, and man was a poet. He may prove this with this quatrine;
    “This is now the bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh
    She shall be called woman
    For she was taken out of man”
The rhyme and emotional outburst of man was obvious. He (man) is still substance other than a poet-He is dust, an element of artist creation, and he is an artwork of the great prime mover.
The artists claim that they are the second God, ie in terms of creativity, it’s no claim at all, but truth manifested in imitation of nature. Art was born with creation, it wasn't born out of decree or biology et cetra but it is born in Toto with man’s creation. It’s birth was by an 'act' rather than word. All through the creation process or stages, we see God giving command with the popular phrase viz “let there be' and it was on the creation of man, that God changed approach. We then see that man was created with a force greater than other things created. The word changed from 'let there be' or 'let the' to let us make (Gen. 1:26) signifying the presence of other creators outside the supreme creator himself.
The birth of art was when God said 'let us make', a different phrase from the former. The second account of creation supported this phrase to show an 'act' or action' taking place; 'the lord God formed the man from the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being' (Gen. 2:7 kjv). Man was a lifeless statue before the breath of life. Lets look at the two words “form” and “make” the thesaurus dictionary of synonyms listed words synonymous to 'make' as' build, assemble, put together, manufacture, produce, fabricate, create, form, fashion, model and synonyms to form as 'body, shape, figure, build, frame, physique, anatomy' et cetra. 'From' the verb as defined by the Longman Dictionary of contemporary English is “to start to exist or make something start to exist, especially as the result of a natural process” while 'make' is defined as 'to produce something by working'.
From the above, we understand that there was a making, a doing, a forming, a bringing together taking place in Eden in a righteous harmony. This making is art. Man is art himself, the process through which he was made: sculpture therefore, of all things created man was uniquely different because of the artistic creation that brought about his existence. If man was not created, would God's creation be complete? Therefore, art was the perfection of nature and all things created. What does the present day artist do; imitate God! Create things out of nature that were not created. It is factual to postulate that God created all things and gave man the sanction to continue his works. But the “let there be”, replaced by 'let us make' using our hands and mind together.
In continuity to creation, man imitates the creator. But is art only imitation? As Aristotle postulated when he defined mimesis as the perfection and imitation of nature: 'Art is not only imitation. But also the use of mathematical ideas and symmetry in the search for the perfect, the timeless and contrasting being and becoming. Nature is full of change, decay and cycles but art can also search for what is everlasting and the first cause of natural phenomena.
Art from a professional point of view it is defined as a means of self expression. It involves an essence, a thought, an idea being manifested and expressed in reality be it on the visual or non-visual perspective. It entails a doing, a making, a genuine creative ability expressed in imitation and explanation of natural phenomena. The word 'creativity' is the keyword and 'expression' the manifestation. Art can be practised consciously or unconsciously. It brings beauty to limelight, sharpens our aesthetic values and transcends our thoughts and imagination to understand man's inherent power to do all things; and break the barriers of impossibilities in terms of reasoning and creativity.
Naturally, man was created with this inherent desire to appreciate beauty, be it a person, a thing or an abstract idea. This is also in imitation of “and God saw that it was good” phrase used through out creation. Thus, in appreciation of the beauty of the first woman to walk the earth, man’s first official speech was born “Os ex ossibus et caro de carne mea” translated as this is the bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh (Gen. 2:23). There are many things that keep man in awe, in wonder and pain. Some he can express by words?-those dreams, visions and ideas such as love, life, death et cetera. That makes a mockery of our speaking, ability? Art comes in; trying to explain, to depict, express our emotion in visual and non visual discrepancy. Patrick Frank quoted O' Keeffe in his 'prebles ARTFORMS' thus I found I could say things with colours and shapes that I couldn't say in any other way-things I had no words for”. Going further he said 'the arts communicate meanings that go far beyond ordinary verbal exchange, and artists use the entire range of thought, feeling and observation as subject of their art. Supporting this Vincent Van Gogh said 'I dream my painting and I paint my dream'.
Art does  not only seek to perfect nature or imitate the first cause, but also to give meaning to life and pacify man’s insatiable sense of aesthetic and pulchritude, expose hidden truths in reality, to tell of the change and the changeless, of time that brings about the harbingers of seasons, of good and evil; the right and the wrong, of darkness and light, to tell of man’s duality, of one of all-in short, art gives life to reality and reality to essence. No wonder even among those who do not comprehend the meaning embodied in a work of art, they still understand that 'art is life'. It keeps man alive; as planned by God. Finally, Oscar Wilde postulated “paradoxically though it may seem, it is none the less true that life imitates art far more than art imitates life'. Art is nothing but life, as created by the creator.

4 die as building collapses in Umuahia

Four members of the same family lost their lives early thursday morning after an uncompleted three storey building collapsed wednesday at Agbama Housing Estate, Olokoro in Umuahia South Local Goverment Area of Abia State
The building which collapsed at about 8.30pm saw sympathizers flooding the estate which lies few metres away from both the Federal Low Cost Housing and World Bank Housing Estates in Umuahia North Local Council Area of the state.
According to eye witness accounts the building which already has cracks all over went down in rubbles at about 8.30pm collapsing on seven people under the building which was said to have been standing for close to ten years.
According to one Augustine Ewuru who lost his brother David and his two kids aged 18 months and 4 years respectively as well as his mother, simply known as Mama Ogoja when the collapse occured there was a quick response by residents of the estate as well as the other adjourning estates who came in for a rescue operation which lasted for close to fifteen hours.
According to Augustine, three survivors which included late David's wife as well one person who had come on a rescue mission and one worker who was working at the building which was said to be undergoing a reonforcement work as at the time of the collapse.
As at thursday morning efforts were still in top gear to see if there could be other survivors under the debric evev as those who survived the incident were still receiving treatment at the Federal Medical Centre where medics worked round the clock to keep the survivors living.
Meanwhile, the state goverment has called for investigations into the remote cause of the collapse with the state governor visiting the survivors at the medical centre.
The state governor who was represented by his deputy, sir Emeka Ananaba told the survivors to be thankful to God for saving them even as he called on doctors and nurses at the medical center to do their utmost to ensure that those who survived the incident get well quick.
As at time of this report, efforts were still on to see if there could be other survivors trapped under the rubble while the owner of the collapsed building is yet to be ascertained.

Can a man and a woman be just friends?

In many cases, the answer is no. Sometimes that is good thing, when both People see friendship as a step to mutually-satisfying love, sex, and/or commitment. At other times, men and women cannot be "just" friends because only one friend desires something more.
Those mismatched desires between men and women lead to unequal friend zone situations, where one person's needs are completely satisfied at the other's expense. Those unfortunate instances and the frustrations around them are the friendship problems we hear so much about.
Nevertheless, friendship between men and women is not impossible. However, it does require finding someone with friendship goals matching your own.
Communicating clearly and leaving when there is not a match key. Also, if you desire "just friends", then it may be better to pick only friends who are already in other romantic relationship.
That way, you can have a satisfying exchange, a good friend, and no frustration.
On a second note, a man and a woman can be just friends if they are rooted in the lord; that is if they are true 'believers 'That way they know their limits, they see each other as siblings in the lord though. That is the only way a man can have a woman as just friend and maintain it.
However, research has shown that men get sexually attracted easily than women, but here is what the ladies think.

Franca: A man and woman can be just friends but not for a very long time, because as they stay on in years, one of them must start developing feelings for the other, especially as they normally spend time together and all of a sudden either of them has a lover, it will be difficult for the other to adjust with that. In many occasions, the guy is always the one that feels that way, so it doesn't last if you ask me.
Chigozie: I could remember when I was young, my mum normally tells me that a boy and a girl cannot  be friends with the illustration that goat and yam don't stay together. So I grew up with that mindset . I have seen most of my friends that engage in such just a friend relationship with  guys but they ended up in a romantic affair.
Lynda: There is nothing that is impossible, my bible tells me so; I think it takes a God fearing person to achieve that. If you know who you are and know where you are going, you won't just settle with anyone around you, so a man and a woman can be just friends if they are rooted in the Lord aside that, nothing positive will come out of such relationship.
Chika: A man and a woman can be just friends, that does not mean they will not have feelings for each other, but by understanding themselves, they can conquer that. So I will say it's all about understanding.
Amanda: I think both can be friends but on one condition that both will not be friends to whom they consider beautiful or handsome. In other words, if for example, you are short in height and you know you will never end up with one that is short too, you can be just friends with such person knowing that   come what may you will not have anything to do with such person in terms of marriage or the likes.
Hannah: They can be just friends if the girl has a girlfriend and the guy also has one, that way there will not be any room for any intimacy rather than friendship, but in many occasions, the guy ends up having feelings for the girl, most times because the guy's girlfriend cheated on him, the next person he runs to is his friend, most times on consoling hims it results to something else.
If you have a different view about this, you can send in your comments via the address above.

The Terms and Conditions they Forget’ by Chinedu Hardy Nwadike

As a kid I and my friends flipped through the pages of entertainment magazines left behind by our elders, admiring the guys there especially when the magazine is rating their fame and wealth.
We always wished to be like them, just like almost everyone would wish to be the entertainer putting up a splendid performance in front of about 20000 spectators, not minding the pains he had gone through at the backstage earlier.

People who often wish to be entertainers forget to read the terms and conditions attached to the celebrity form they are filling. They just want to get to limelight, forgetting that the same light that will show their talent to the world will still be there to show the world their weakness and bad sides.
The dreams and desires that dwelled in our hearts as we grew was that someday, we will be the faces people always want to read about, the faces that will always entertain on stages and televisions, the voice that will be thrilling people on the radio, and the guys posing on the cover of celebrity magazines with the best designers clothes.

When we grew up, we realized that there were so many things we never knew about the people that mentored us while we were growing up.

We forgot that there was another adult magazine that was hidden from us where nude pictures stolen from the cameras and phones of these entertainers were published, and probably there were scandals we never read about because we were not the ones buying the magazines.
When I came of age to use the internet and was able to buy celebrity magazines myself, I realized that being an entertainer is like a two-edged sword with one side sharpened for his good stories, while the other does not hesitate to cut his bad sides.

I started changing my mind when I realized that the media has dubbed most male entertainers as womanizers, while it is all clear that the females, especially most of them repel husbands. Be it true or false, this is what the media made me to understand and they constitute the initial fear of every parent when they learn that their child want to join the entertainment industry.

Entertainers often get angry when they see their names attached to a story, that is probably a bad one, while some others like popular Nollywood actress turned musician Tonto Dike has nothing to do with good news or bad news, all are just news to her as long as ‘Poko’ can come as her response.
Some entertainers think the media are their younger siblings whom they can always tell what to write, they want the media to be their praise singers even when they are not as good as that, hence the term ‘hyping’. They don’t want to be involved in any bad news, but they want to do bad things.

How can your fans know you if they have not seen your strengths and weaknesses, how can they call you a perfect entertainer if they have not seen you walk on the path of any scandal? Even when the entertainer is not involved, he must have been in the picture of something like it before after all; people take group pictures once in a while.

Tuface in the song ‘implication’ said “Just because say I dey there, I follow enter the yawa”, and this will be a lesson to all entertainers who come out to accuse the media of invading their privacy.
Every entertainer should simply know this, there is nothing like privacy for you, you are able to achieve privacy on the things you can conceal from the entire world, as long as you are there with someone else, just have in mind that it could one day get to the public.

Friday, May 3, 2013

I am pained she is a bisexual

Dear Bro Fuston,
I can conveniently refer to you as a “Heart” Doctor, you are doing very well to calm many frayed nerves in relationships, thank you.
I am committed to a relationship that has taken so much from me, as it is I don't know the exact thing to do.
Almost all that know about our relationship think it is a matter of time for us to be legally pronounced husband and wife.
I am loved by her parents, uncles, brothers and sisters, she is equally loved by everyone in my family, not even my mum who has chased many of my female friends away from me for reasons that are not tangible.
We have known ourselves for about eighteen months running and I have gone with my people to meet her own family on March 16 this year on the way forward to our wedding.
I am doing my best to present the true situation in this whole thing so that you can place your advice appropriately.
I love her beyond imagination, I can do every legitimate thing to keep her, she meets my standard of a lovely wife, but now I am scared.
My fears for the future and the outcome of what I recently discovered about her, if we eventually get married is the reason for this letter to you.
Recently, I saw a love text message sent to her by the girl she proposed to be her maid of honour during our wedding and I felt nothing about it because they have been very close friends even before we met each other, but I never knew that both of them are bed mates.
I got transferred from Port Harcourt to Enugu not too long and my wife to be came visiting. After one week of staying together with me, her friend called and indicated interest to visit us for some days here in Enugu and we happily asked her to come.
She has stayed for two days with us, and on the third day, I forgot to pick my ATM card to work and needed to buy things before the close of work that day.
I rushed to the house for it and to my greatest shock, when I pushed the door open I saw my woman and her friend seriously kissing and fondling themselves, they were naked and engrossed in the act that they never knew when I came closer to the sofa where they are.
The most painful and annoying aspect of the whole thing is that she is insisting that our marriage cannot be disturbed by her relationship with the friend, in fact she sees nothing wrong with that, maintaining that the affair is with a fellow woman and not a man.
I am ashamed of telling anyone this. Do you think my marriage with her will work?
Michael in Enugu.

I am pained she is a bisexual

Dear Bro Fuston,
I can conveniently refer to you as a “Heart” Doctor, you are doing very well to calm many frayed nerves in relationships, thank you.
I am committed to a relationship that has taken so much from me, as it is I don't know the exact thing to do.
Almost all that know about our relationship think it is a matter of time for us to be legally pronounced husband and wife.
I am loved by her parents, uncles, brothers and sisters, she is equally loved by everyone in my family, not even my mum who has chased many of my female friends away from me for reasons that are not tangible.
We have known ourselves for about eighteen months running and I have gone with my people to meet her own family on March 16 this year on the way forward to our wedding.
I am doing my best to present the true situation in this whole thing so that you can place your advice appropriately.
I love her beyond imagination, I can do every legitimate thing to keep her, she meets my standard of a lovely wife, but now I am scared.
My fears for the future and the outcome of what I recently discovered about her, if we eventually get married is the reason for this letter to you.
Recently, I saw a love text message sent to her by the girl she proposed to be her maid of honour during our wedding and I felt nothing about it because they have been very close friends even before we met each other, but I never knew that both of them are bed mates.
I got transferred from Port Harcourt to Enugu not too long and my wife to be came visiting. After one week of staying together with me, her friend called and indicated interest to visit us for some days here in Enugu and we happily asked her to come.
She has stayed for two days with us, and on the third day, I forgot to pick my ATM card to work and needed to buy things before the close of work that day.
I rushed to the house for it and to my greatest shock, when I pushed the door open I saw my woman and her friend seriously kissing and fondling themselves, they were naked and engrossed in the act that they never knew when I came closer to the sofa where they are.
The most painful and annoying aspect of the whole thing is that she is insisting that our marriage cannot be disturbed by her relationship with the friend, in fact she sees nothing wrong with that, maintaining that the affair is with a fellow woman and not a man.
I am ashamed of telling anyone this. Do you think my marriage with her will work?
Michael in Enugu.

Dear Bro Fuston,
I can conveniently refer to you as a “Heart” Doctor, you are doing very well to calm many frayed nerves in relationships, thank you.
I am committed to a relationship that has taken so much from me, as it is I don't know the exact thing to do.
Almost all that know about our relationship think it is a matter of time for us to be legally pronounced husband and wife.
I am loved by her parents, uncles, brothers and sisters, she is equally loved by everyone in my family, not even my mum who has chased many of my female friends away from me for reasons that are not tangible.
We have known ourselves for about eighteen months running and I have gone with my people to meet her own family on March 16 this year on the way forward to our wedding.
I am doing my best to present the true situation in this whole thing so that you can place your advice appropriately.
I love her beyond imagination, I can do every legitimate thing to keep her, she meets my standard of a lovely wife, but now I am scared.
My fears for the future and the outcome of what I recently discovered about her, if we eventually get married is the reason for this letter to you.
Recently, I saw a love text message sent to her by the girl she proposed to be her maid of honour during our wedding and I felt nothing about it because they have been very close friends even before we met each other, but I never knew that both of them are bed mates.
I got transferred from Port Harcourt to Enugu not too long and my wife to be came visiting. After one week of staying together with me, her friend called and indicated interest to visit us for some days here in Enugu and we happily asked her to come.
She has stayed for two days with us, and on the third day, I forgot to pick my ATM card to work and needed to buy things before the close of work that day.
I rushed to the house for it and to my greatest shock, when I pushed the door open I saw my woman and her friend seriously kissing and fondling themselves, they were naked and engrossed in the act that they never knew when I came closer to the sofa where they are.
The most painful and annoying aspect of the whole thing is that she is insisting that our marriage cannot be disturbed by her relationship with the friend, in fact she sees nothing wrong with that, maintaining that the affair is with a fellow woman and not a man.
I am ashamed of telling anyone this. Do you think my marriage with her will work?
Michael in Enugu.